Feeling Lost,
Disconnected, or Like
You’ve Lost Yourself Along the Way?
This book was originally published through Balboa Press… but we wanted to make it accessible to anyone, anywhere - so we created a digital version you can download instantly.
NOTE TO SELF — The Book You’d Give a Best Friend (or Yourself)
When you need a reminder that you’re not alone, and encouragement to come home to yourself.
(first 20 buyers also get a FREE printed copy!)
There’s a version of you underneath all the expectations, achievements, burnout, and self-doubt.
She’s been there all along - quiet, steady, waiting for you to remember.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost your spark… like you're constantly giving to others but never feel whole yourself… if you’ve ever wondered “Who even am I anymore?”, this book is your reminder that you are not alone.
Note to SELF isn’t your typical self-help book. It’s the kind of book you’d give your best friend when she’s having a breakdown. Or the one you buy for yourself in that moment you whisper, “Something has to change.”
Born from 8 years of raw, honest daily WhatsApp voice notes between two women navigating identity, motherhood, careers, heartbreak and healing - this book is the deeply lived wisdom you didn’t know you needed.
And it’s here to walk you back to yourself.
We Weren’t Trying to Write a Book. We Were Just Trying to Stay Sane.
When Aileen moved to Spain as a solo mum, and Julie was navigating identity shifts across continents - they started leaving daily voice messages.
Not out of a plan. Out of survival.
8 years later, those voice notes became the foundation for this book.
One woman from rural Australia. One from Glasgow.
Different lives, same core struggle:
⮕ Who am I without all the striving?
⮕ Why do I feel guilty for saying no?
⮕ When will I ever feel like I’m enough?
The journey wasn’t linear. It was messy. Emotional. Unfiltered. But in those private conversations, we found the answers. We discovered that growth doesn’t mean becoming someone new.
It means coming home to who you’ve always been.
That’s what Note to SELF is - a guide back to your true self, built through connection, compassion, and truth.
10 Pillars. One Powerful Message: You Are Already Enough.
Inside Note to SELF, you’ll discover the 10 core truths that transformed our lives - from chronic people-pleasing and burnout… to grounded confidence and emotional clarity.
Here’s what you’ll uncover:
⮕ The real reason you struggle with boundaries - and why it has nothing to do with willpower
⮕ Why traditional definitions of success leave you empty - and what to aim for instead
⮕ The subtle signs you’ve been abandoning yourself
⮕ How to finally break free from holding patterns you didn’t even know you were in
⮕ A framework for self-worth that doesn’t depend on your job title, body, or relationship status
Plus
⮕Short reflective prompts to reconnect with yourself
⮕Gentle affirmations to rewire your self-talk
⮕A tone that feels like a loving best friend who’s been through it too
This book doesn’t preach. It doesn’t lecture. It walks beside you.
What Readers Are Saying About Note to SELF:
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"An accessible and practical guide to the key tenets of emotional health and living authentically. The reframing of happiness is refreshing. The personal stories of the authors add warmth and depth."
— Lucy Baxter
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"This book really has something for everyone. I learnt so much about myself and how to manage life's challenges which are so often internal dialogue."
— Mr D.
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"This book is like having two wise, honest friends in your corner. It doesn’t preach or sugar-coat, it gently reminds you of what matters, especially when life feels overwhelming."
— RenP
Get Instant Access to the Book That Helps You Reconnect With Who You Really Are
For just $11, you get immediate access to the digital version of Note to SELF
- available exclusively on Stan.
But for the first 20 buyers, we’re also shipping out a FREE hard copy of the book
(normally $13–$16 on Amazon)
Here’s what you’ll receive:
✅ Instant access to the full 10-pillar eBook (PDF format)
✅ Reflective prompts to help you reconnect with yourself
✅ Daily affirmations for building self-worth & setting boundaries
✅ First 20 buyers: FREE hard copy shipped to you (while supplies last)
Real value: $23+
You pay: $11
You Deserve to Feel Whole.
And This Is Your Reminder.
This isn’t just a book. It’s a reconnection.
To your strength. Your softness.
Your intuition. Your truth.
So if you’ve ever felt like you’ve
lost yourself in the roles you play…
if you’ve forgotten your worth…
if you’re exhausted from
chasing and proving and pleasing…
Note to SELF is your way back.
But this isn’t something to put off for later.
If there’s even a flicker inside you whispering, “I think I need this,” - trust it. That’s your true self speaking.
We’re only offering the free printed copies to the first 20 people.
And this isn’t available in bookstores. Only here.
We believe in this book because it’s not just our story. It’s yours too.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. You don’t need to become someone new.
You just need a gentle reminder of who you already are.
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.”
— Brené Brown
Written by Aileen & Julie from You Keep Me Sane®
Best friends. Real humans.
Voice note addicts.
Creators of the You Keep Me Sane podcast.
We’ve lived through burnout, people-pleasing and not-enoughness.
This guide is what we wish we had years ago.